Very interesting points from both of your perspectives. It is a "victim" mentality and I suppose that at times, I do feed off of it, for whatever reason. Part of it too is just plain and simple impatience.
In any event, I do see positive changes in both myself and my stich...obviously I haven't purged all negative emotions, but again, I do see progress. As for being the better option, heck, I know I am (okay, please don't take that as being conceited --- he just has a lot of baggage).
NYS, thank you for at least the partial validation...it's precisely how I feel....she can't be giving 100% emotionally here when part of her is stil there. Now, whatever the reason, I don't know, but I guess I have to accept that she still has the emotional attachment, whether its a safety net or otherwise. Something she said to me this morning sticks in my mind in this regard. She said that she had told OM that she was trying to work things out here. Okay, maybe its semantics, but "trying"...I would have been more plesed had she told him the same things that she told me (her life is here, she loves me etc) now I recognzie that perhaps she's being "soft" on him, but to me, it indicates that she is not convinced.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
