if you had patched things up after the A you probably would not have done the work on yourself, you would have swept it under the rug and made some lameass attempt at a Fresh Start. And nothin would have changed. The 2nd betrayal pushed you clear down to rock bottom, where you would be forced to get real.
what if you give the control freak within a rest for a while? Good things have come from this failure, they always do.
sorry about my lame attempt at comfort. I know I suck at it! H wanted it but would get pissed at the very thought of me giving it to him. Talk about illogical!!
