I said that it was not all about your relationship.
But I do like the fact that whole post was in complete sentences not half said short and brisk open ended wordage. Allowed us to see the complete thought structure.
Still painful. Still had to fight my impulses to get her back. But I dont know if they came from principal, or feeling of loss, competitive drive, etc. gets muddled when your in that three person mix.
The pain and the fighting of your impulses gets muddled even when a third party is not in the mix. It is a part of losing something that either is or was important to you. It is part of excepting and wading through the fact that maybe you failed at something but you are not a failure. And for someone who has a history of suceeding this concept maybe larger then it is in those who have a history of only suceeding half the time or rarely ever. (which is still a pretty good track record in my opinion).
other then that, I have nothing to confess or secret that I can think of. So you are welcome to ask and I will be honest.
How do you feel about the fact that your marriage failed. Not what you did wrong not what you should have done could have done or should have known better then. No logical rambles just pure emotional truth.
How does a person who is usually successful at anything and everything they put there mind to (going from your resume of life posted on here at one time). Feel about not suceeding at something that is so all important to them as marriage.
Let me guess they rewrite the history they throw themselves into other projects. They work to much and basically push them selves to the limit in every other aspect of there life. And then they use logic to make it appear that it is all there fault and they had complete controll of the situation. All the while they are talking words and not feelings. Sounds like a great form of detachment.
But what lies beneath it BF. You are good at the I did this and I did thats and all the logic. But how does BF feel?
