Got my boots one for your own good! I'll exchange them for some ladylike high heeled sandles and a nice dress if you'll agree to treat yourself kindly in this process.
Yes - we ladies are terrible at comforting men. Possibly because while we are doing the "comforting" we still can't resist throwing in a thought or two. That is one of the lessons I keep learning very slowly.
Hope things are looking better in the bright light of day.