I know you and I aren't the same person, we see things differently. For me though, even though I've been horribly hurt, as have you....it's a decision to really work on my M and save it that has me doing what I am. Sometimes LFL, baby steps don't cut it, baby steps can be an excuse to not really do the work. I hear what you are saying. And I just want to clarify that when H and I decided to reconcile, we had some pretty hot sex! Not much different than you are describing now with your H. But again, just like you are now, I was driving the car. I was being aggressive because I wanted it to work and he was quite responsive because he wanted it to work. Some months have past now and I just see us getting back into old roles. Sure I could keep up the aggressive side of me and get the sex, but that is not fixing the problem. And boy have things proven themselves to be true. I haven't initiated once in weeks and guess what? We haven't had sex in weeks. He just has sucha hard time doing it and it frustrates me to the point that I don't want it either! So I wouldn't say I am taking baby steps. I want HIM to stop taking baby steps. But alas, I cannot control him.
