You know, I think the reason I like you so much is because you remind me of him.
I will get this book from the library. (or any other assertiveness book..chrome? any suggestions?)
Although I realize that I am walking a fine line between trying to help and control, I know that he too would benefit from the direct examples of what is asserting, passive or aggressive. I can tell you that he really has no clue how to 'hear' the distinctions in these. Passive sounds nice and the other two sound pushy, to different degrees.
Normally I'd say Oh who cares, it's how he is and I don't want to appear like I want to change him. But when we did Chrome's self esteem exercise the other day (list two things you don't like about yourself..) I was really floored that he said he "hates" being a yes man, being too agreeable. Honest to goodness, I would have said that this was something he admired about himself! All indications have been that this is the case.
So I will look it up and read it and mention the interesting things and before you know it, he'll be reading it for himself. That's how it usually works in our house!
