Hello everyone - I was hoping that with the end of full time work I would actually get to spend more time here, but my departure hit a few snags, and the ex-boss is being weird. It's been an emotionally exhausting week
Matilda - I feel the same way, when a regular poster is missing, it does cause some anxiety!
amd - there is a huge difference in being upfront. Most of it resides in my own confidence. Before, like you, I used to feel anxious about upsetting him. Now, those times when I am ready to be open, I have reconciled myself to upsetting him, I just try to be polite nevertheless. It takes courage, and energy. My self observation has definitely improved. Specific words are more centred around me instead of him. I find myself using self expressions like 'I feel' versus "you should not have'. Though, I still feel myself work in progress in this area
midip - I am so touched by your affirmation. It has been a hard habit to break, the old Slowly would have let a lot of insecurities hang out. I'll pop over and see how you are doing.
andy my fellow brit - is it cold enough fer ya? thank you kind sir, its always lovely to be appreciated.
Well, through my difficult negotiation with the ex-boss, I realised that perhaps the most important requirement for dbing is commitment. Through all the tough times, somehow we managed to stay on the course. After one day of my ex-boss's antics, I just walked away. The resolution to try and work things out was just not there. It was good for me to remember that dbing strated with a choice that I made, nothing else.
thank you kind sir, its always lovely to be appreciated. 
Slowly
