Hi Slowly, Yes your post very much makes sense and now it is you that has given me something to ponder . . . .
If I had to summarize your eloquent post into a few words I'd say there is a loving woman who has a solid long-term view. And it is both beautiful & inspiring to read.
Some of your observations of NG could very well describe SO, and I can see and understand your way of handling those traits in NG. However where our sitchs differ, and it is perhaps the most significant difference, is that NG is committed to you and the marriage. That certainly makes the long term perspective slightly easier to adopt and maintain. Lacking that, I find myself uncomfortably navigating between what I would like and What IS. But you have given me something to put away for some potential future use, somewhere, sometime in my life.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! No doubt I will be mulling this over today.
