Hi Hope I still keep up with your sitch and say prayers for you and your H. I rarely have anything worthy to post, but I'll take a shot on the tanning subject. I used to go to the tanning bed, but it makes me freckly so I started using a self tanner. The one that I found that is inexpensive, doesnt look fake, streak and gets darker gradually is Coppertone (light/medium) Oil Free self tanner. I just bought some to get that spring look started myself.. no freckles and no cancer worries.
Hang in there. You're still handling the rollercoaster well, but I can tell it wears on you. Do something nice for you... working on your Master's Degree should keep your mind off of things. I have to agree your H is in MLC and will probably come out reaching for you. It just takes so LONG for them to realize what life is about and what they want!