Your H loves you enough to not want to put you through anymore pain that he has already caused you. He just can’t seem to pull himself together. He really needs therapy on his own, without you to seek and work through this issues babe. It’s not something that you can help him with.
I believe you. I know I cannot help him, which is so frustrating as I've said a thousand times over, but I'm getting better at realizing it. He's never going to come back feeling the way he does, and as NY S said, H is now seeking yet another person to fill up his happy void. It will take several months into a new R with o.w. II before he realizes he's failed to solve his problems yet again. I'm preparing myself for the fact that we will most likely D. or at least legally separate. I see no other way anymore. We can't go on living this way, and financially it isn't going to be possible. I can only do the best I can for myself when handed the situation. I hope I can do it.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
