Quote: And so he still thinks his happiness will come from someone else.
And when he finds someone that likes what he likes, he'll find that similar interests still won't be enough. Poor guy.
This is good, though, Hope. His relationship with the OW was taken out of their fantasy arrangement that he had while living with you, and made real since he left. And he found it didn't work as he thought it would.
Still searching outside of himself, he now seeks another person. He'll have more realizations as that doesn't pan out to meet his expectations.
But that's his journey, not yours.
He is not in love with anybody right now. Not me; not her.
And dare I say, also not himself.
NYS is correct and you are unfortunately a victim caught in the crossfire. I am sorry. You have been through so much and you are so kindhearted but your H sounds as if he will run for a long, long time seeking happiness everywhere except in the healing of himself. Which is the only place he will ever find it. You have to take care of yourself and move forward. Always keep him in your prayers. He needs them more than he knows. It's all you can do. If he pursues D you have to let him go. You can't open his eyes. Only time and many more trips 'round the same old mountain can. He's one that has to go the hard route to learn the lessons in life. Unfortunatly a lot of us are like that. Sometimes we find our way back, though. Sometimes. But you can't live your life holding your breath. If you do, before you know it, it will have passed you by. That's not God's plan for you, Hope. He has much bigger and better things in mind. You can bet on it.
