Hope- A lot of advice has been given to you since my last post. I won't even try to give any, as i don't think i could be as wise as everybody else.
but still...things from our home and our life, to set up with someone else.
I totally understand how you feel. This thought plagues me every day. I know that i can't do anything about it. But, nevertheless, i don't like thinking that ow could be getting things that me and my H purchased together, for us. We are splitting things, but i am angry over the thought of her getting to enjoy the new tv and new furniture that we bought for us. I insisted on taking the dining room set, basically b/c i refused to let her eat off of my table. We bought it on our honeymoon...i'll be damned if she would have it...even if i had to sell it, no way would she have it. I understand how upsetting it is to imagine this. Everybody keeps asking me where my H will live...i haven't asked him. My thing is, what difference does it make? And if he does move in with ow, is he going to tell me that's what he is planning...no, so why give him the opportunity to lie. The whole thing just sucks!
Regarding you feeling like you need to know the whole truth of what happened b/w your H and ow: i agree with everyone else...will he really tell you the whole truth? And what will those details do for you? I understand the desire to know, but i think in the long run, it will only end of up hurting you more. Just my opinion.
I think you should let your H be the one to contact you to discuss things. If you really do want to get out of limbo, and feel that mediation could be the way to go, then you could look for the mediator and make the appointment and then just let him know when it is. Just because you see a mediator doesn't mean you actually have to do anything legal. But, it will give you the opportunity to discuss your options, with an informed party present. Just a suggestion.
