I'll bite on this too: everyone, including me thought we had a great R, with all the good things in life. I don't have sour grapes about our good times at all--that's what's going to light any positive memories I have about the R--the good stuff. It's just that the double-life, the more than a decade of subversive deception, that's what I'm coming to grips with, and it ain't pretty no matter how you slice it. This is a well-established pattern, a compulsive behavior, not a tempation of the moment.
All the best,
sorry Hope, this has been too much of a hijack I'm afraid,
