I don't consider what I said to be "sour grapes." Everyone who knew us would have said that we had a great marriage, myself included. But, everyone, myself included, only got to see one side of my H. There was another person there that only came out when H was in need. We have been married 20 years so there are a lot of memories for me and for our children. Unfortunately, those memories are now clouded by what we have come to learn about H. He did not suddenly have a lapse in judgement and begin an affair. It has been a lifelong lifestyle that I was unaware of until 3 years ago. No matter how many good and happy times we had as a family, that cannot undo the ugly truth with which my children and I must now live. Our situations are not parallel.
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
