Good morning as we continue this conversation! I loved your post.
pay no attention to the man behind the WAS curtain I know you meant this in a way to explain something serious to me, but this just sounds like such a funny t-shirt or bumper sticker that us LBS's should have! lol! I do understand what you are trying to tell me though.
I belive it made her subject to the tides of life without an anchor anymore I love how you put that. Sometimes I think about the position my H. and o.w. are in. I imagine it is fueled with a LOT of drama and emotion; this, "What are we gonna do?" mentality. Their future together always hanging in the balance. There is a sense of excitement about living that way. Will they continue to see each other? Where will they go? Can they get an apt.? You can practically hear the cheesy soap opera music in the background. It kind of makes sense that the affair has gone on this long, when I think about it that way.
But as you said, you filed and took back the power, and it dumped her in o.m.'s lap. No more anchor to NYS. She was on her own and obviously she has had some moments where she's missed you.
For now, I'm not going to do anything. It is up to him to contact me about discussing any separation or divorce. I was prepared to do that this weekend, and he avoided it. He obviously has plans today since he told me he could not meet with me.
I need to get out for a while today. I am so tired of all the drama of this. This is not how I want my life to be. The problem is, I really NEED to know the truth about what has gone on between H. & o.w. I am not saying it would change anything. I just need to know so the thousands of possibilities stop crowding my mind, and I have the ability to know the truth and let it rest. I don't know if that makes any sense, but that is what I need.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
