Hope, He is scared of hurting anyone else. I know that's hard on you but that is what is wrong with him. Have you visited Purdy's thread? It currently called Still needing help III and i think its under newcomers. She is 12 months down the line and is just starting to see the end of the tunnel. Read her thread it might help you to understand what your H is going through. I've spoken to Purdy on the phone and she is really nice and seems to have a cool head when it comes to DBing. Patience is still the watch word here.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15