Pennies in the Fountain of Serenity

[ACJ]

Hope,
I'm so glad you are feeling more positive. It gives me hope that one day I might be doing just the same. You mentioned that your H want his own children. Maybe that is why he says he can't get passed this, maybe he wanted this child to be his so that he would've acheived what he wanted. I'm really glad for you that she isn't but as someone who already has three children and would've liked a 4th I can understand to a point why your H would be so affected by this. Perhaps one of the issues he needs to work out for himself is whether he can live his life without his own children. If he is going through a MLC perhaps he is wondering what will happen if he does not leave a legacy in the form of a blood line. I'm not advocating that what he is doing is right b/c it isn't. I'm just trying to highlight that perhaps there might be deeper seated issues to this that need to be explored before he can begin to join you in healing your M. I wish you all the luck in the world.