Imdi, The way I understand it is that o.w. is separated from her H. and he has no contact w/the child. I do not know why; H. has said in the past that he wants his wife (ow) back, so why no visitation w/child? I really have no idea. I also am very suspect over this supposed pregnancy last year. The timing of it and now the supposed miscarriage...I don't know what kind of proof H. has of any of this even being true. He did not talk about it in detail with me. After all the trust issues he's had with o.w., even if she had been pregnant I wonder if it was really his. There is just no way for me to know all these things, and it's very complicated and upsetting. I think H. bought into her story because of his feelings for her, and I am sure she saw that she could take advantage of that. I hope he does not move in with her. I will be very upset. He would be taking things from our home to move to an apt. with her and that bothers me a lot, too. Not that I'm saying he would be unfairly removing things from the house; I know he would only take what we agree upon, but still...things from our home and our life, to set up with someone else. And I cannot see how it could possibly work out between them, but maybe that's just me. I don't know what he plans to do from here. He had indicated to me that he had second thoughts about moving in with her, but that doesn't mean he won't. And he's still giving the impression that way too much has happened now for him to try to be with me again. I remember trying to tell him that I knew I could move past this and he said, "Yes, I know...but you're not me." So the problem is that HE can't move past this.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
