Hope, I'm glad you found my idea useful. I almost did a legal separation with my W, but I ultimately decided that it wasn't necessary for now because we were able to agree on visitation with my D, and our financial sitch isn't very complicated.

A legal separation usually works the same way as a divorce in terms of lawyers and courts and such -- you should ask your attorney.

It's good to hear that you got some piece of mind from understanding more of the truth.

The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)