Hope- Glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better and that you were able to have a positive conversation with your H. I am sure you are feeling relieved after hearing the truth about things...i know that i would.
As for RB's suggestion...i agree that it could be a good thing. As you know, my H and I are in a similar sitch...we have our agreement, separating everything. And i will say that after we signed it, things b/w him and i did get better...much less tense. I think it just took pressure off of both of us...perhaps it will have the same effect on you and your H.
I do believe that you need to do what you want to do, what you feel is best for you. It is okay to take it one step at a time (having the agreement, selling the house, etc.). There is no reason, in my opinion, to rush into things. You didn't marry overnight...you don't need to D overnight either.
Anyway, i hope that you have a restful night. And i hope you enjoy your vacation next week...you deserve it.
