Actually the phone call wasn't at all difficult for me. It was much easier than I had imagined it would be. I felt for the H I was talking to naturally, but I felt he had the right to know what the woman in his life was up to as well (if he didn't know, some do). At first he denied that she would do what she was...BUT I had all the info he needed to go find out. I gave him the web address to the free software I downloaded and told him..."if you don't believe me, you can verify it for yourself." This is how I caught my H.
As for the "friend" study, no that wouldn't shock me at all to know that. I know there are many ways I would help my best friend....sometimes you do things too for those you are so close too...you don't think about it, you react.
THAT is exactly why I told my H that "friends help friends cheat" all....the time. Many people aren't able to facilitate these behaviors without some assistance. One of my best friends did this herself...her next door neighbor helped her all the time...and I suppose I did too by not speaking up, I just kept quiet....but knew all the while what she was doing. I guess I felt it was between them...which in hind-sight I know was wrong of me. About the only thing I did do was tell her she couldn't use me as an alibi in any way...I would not aid her in that manner at all.
On the good side...at least I did come home to find no further activity on the computer (Thank God for small favors once again.) This is literally going to be a one day at a time thing. Right now....I'm just feeling proud of myself for making it through the day at work without becoming a total wreck. (patting myself on the back)
