It's great to hear from you. I'm glad you both are getting good help. And keeping the spotlight on Mr. GEL's discomfort is warranted as the human tendency is to avoid pain and try to rug-sweep-under--which I know he isn't apparently. Good.
I did all the wrong things, just so you know. Because I'm a big strong man and I can take care of some girly puny human emotions all on my own thank you very much. Pffft!
Mr. GEL has 3 whole years of your life for which to be held accountible in terms of explaining his behavior, and he'd better stand in front of judge GEL with hat in hand, head bowed. And your MC, your gut, and your noggin' will sort it all out I'm sure.
I just don't understand we humans. Obviously. I don't understand why people just can't use this very simple long-standing rule:
"If this person I love and respect were to treat me the same way I am treating them via my behavior, how would I feel?"
Kinda lets you know what-what not to do, no? Sheesh.
And, yes, offer still stands. If Mr. GEL can't give you the respect you deserve he's going behind the woodshed.
And with at least a few of us. I just have to sit down and figure out who has the more diverse, well-rounded mad skills martial arts disciplines, Cobra or NOP. Sorry, boys, a New York mob thing. a la DeNiro blah blah Goodfellas, "Heyyy, Henry, just bustin' yer ballz. Little bit. Little bit."
-Stigmata-
PS. Glad you're going to church, btw. Even if you don't believe it all, there are good life lessons to learn as well as positive behavioral messages IMO.
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
