Glad the story helped. Mom did cry, yell, get silent, etc...alternately for a long time. Weeks and then at odd times after that for months more. And she did let Dad see. The nice thing is that they have the kind of R now where not only does it NEVER come up but if a story comes up in the news about an affair or something there is no weird feeling in the room. If Dad makes a negative comment about someone who has had an affair (like when Clinton was in the news so much) she doesn't give him any "look" or anything. I hope Mr. Gel steps up to the plate like my Dad did. My Dad took total responsibility for it. He also told the story and answered any questions my brother and I had - i was in college, my brother was in high school. Ås it happened they were transferred to another state at about that time so continued contact wasn't much of an issue. I will keep praying for the two of you.
