You are doing great. Hang on to who you are and what you want in this M or in any M. Mr. Gel did a terrible thing to you AND he cheated himself too. Maybe it will take this for him to finally get it. You, your DS and your H are in my prayers.
I have seen relationships heal from infidelity but it is a hard road. We will understand if there is stuff you simply don't want to share but we are here for what you do. I'm glad Mr. Gel opened up to whatever degree he did - he needs to talk to you until he is blue in the face, talk until everything is out on the table. And he needs to hear you do the same. Empty promises and apolgies just aren't going to be enough. I think you are very aware of what you need. Insist upon it or make a life for you and your son without your H.
The flower shotput seems to be an Olympic event on this board lately. Sometimes I think that a dramatic manuever of this variety would help my H finally get it. Sometimes I think he never will. Gel, you have a unique opportunity here. If you hadn't found this out you could have gone on spinning your wheels indefinately. At least that part is done.
