I'm wondering if he is a sociapath, and doesn't care what GEL or any of his past wives think, and that he had no intentions of ever telling her (he didn't for 3 years)! I think he only needs a sex counselor if that person is qualified to diagnose full blown personality disorders!
GEL,
At this point I'm wondering what it is that you want to hear from him? Do doubt he is in super panic, cover all bases, think up all the excuses mode right now. He's got to have a good explanation when he gets home and he likely will. It doesn't need to be perfect, just good enough. Let some time pass and he can go back to life as usual.
Are you going to keep this kind of pressure up for years? I say let him do the proving now. Gather your documentation, go see your lawyer, and file the papers. You don't have to act on them right away. But leave that gun pointed at his head until he can prove over time that you should not pull the trigger.
