Well, all my detaching has done me no good, as my wife, while seeming closer in her behavior, announced last night after meeting with the mediator and attending a parents of divorce class, that she wasn't comfortable with trying out different kinds of visitation during the separation and instead wanted to go with a plan that looked a lot like what her lawyer recommended and represents the minimum possible visitation I could expect.
Well, there goes the detachment and we were right back into our old dynamic of her feeling blamed and threatened when I refused to just give into her naive idea that she can just remove me from my house and my kids lives (and get paid for it). I quickly feel into, well if you are unwilling to even try my ideas out, then you can just pack up and leave and I'll see you in court mode.
I managed to reinforce all of her negative feelings about me, but honestly I don't know what I am supposed to do when she acts like I need to just walk away from this.
If she is trying to make me dislike her, she's doing a great job right now.
