Quote: Still, I wonder how many of us come here searching for solutions to situations that are truly out of our control. What has struck me lately about my conversations with my WAW/MLC whatever, is that I really can't win. When I am present, I am overbearing and making her feel guilty, when I withdraw, I am self-centered and selfish. When I pursue, I am putting my needs first, when I distance, I am reinforcing her reasons for leaving in the first place.
You couldn't be more right. My wife told me Friday that it wasn't a lost cause after the bomb was dropped. I honestly feel differently. Like Rich says, 95% up to them 5% up to us and we just hope we don't screw that 5% up (with them setting us up to fail on the 5%).
This isn't meant to be woe is me, but still...It's all about them. They want to blame us and find plenty of ammunition (easy to find if you're looking for it).
And you ask me what I want this year
And I try to make this kind and clear
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
Better Days... Goo Goo Dolls
