I totally agree that the dynamic I developed (even after trying to address so many of the basic issues like connectedness) was of me as the long suffering LBS and her the confused, capricious, WAW.
We met for lunch today, and I was just trying to connect as friends and let her know that I really cared about her no matter what happened and that I'm o.k. losing the wife, but not the friend. I also let her know that I apologized for continuing to hurt her via my failure to forgive and that I was trying to understand why I was never able to come to terms with this.
Right now, I think I am just trying to continue to spend time with her and to let her just kind of vent on me. It's clear in our conversations that she is angry, dissapointed, and sure that if she doesn't step out of our dynamic, she is not taking care of herself.
I'm just not sure where to go with this for me. Distance feels like crap, and maintaining the friendship seems like a tightrope act where I risk continuing to add fuel to the fire of her dissapointment.
She seems very cool with us being as close as we've ever been (e.g. calling each other during the day, having lunch) am I just torturing myself by keeping this up?
