F4W - I guess I should have chimed in as well. I saw doom in the valentines thing too. Too much pursuit towards your wife. While I agree we should all be able to do what we feel, there are simply times when we shouldn't.... like when you both aren't on the "same page" of your marriage. I will try to catch you next time!
anyway, it just seems to me that you are at Point B, she is still at Point A...and until you meet up, you just need to be less obvious in your pursuit and go on with the other daily events of life.
Another thing I have noticed is that you seem to be forcing YOUR LL's on her....and wondering why she isn't responding as you would. You would have loved the Valentines thing if she had done it for you...but it pushed her over the edge - WAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYY more pursuit than she was able to handle at this point in her journey. Like I said, I think when she meets up with you at Point B, then maybe she will be more open to this type of affection. But not now.
Hang in there. Our prayers are with your family at the impending loss of your wife's grandfather.
