I did have a lot of resentment...for a long time. What nobody seems to get from all this is that her asking me "the question" relieved it.
My resentment was from being thought perverted for my desires, controlled with sex, and not being heard. NG has done a great job in staying with it and owning up to her mistakes. I can only hope to do as well. She now accepts my desires and doesn't control me with sex. The last part was hearing me, which she did by asking me what she would have to do to make me feel loved.
Obviously, I did a poor job of communicating why I posted my question. Because of that, I assume those who read previous posts thought the same circumstances existed.
I have a good W who is trying. I'm trying, too.
BTW HP, the "buying sex with romance" comment was regarding how NG and I came into our M 25 years ago, not how I feel now.
