NG, Is Barney never romantic, or just not often enough for your liking?
The first is giving up on your dream, the second is adjusting your dreams, which we all have to do within marriage.
I have to say that I was put off (me! an HD chick) by his comment that he wouldn't "buy" sex with romance. As if that eliminates his obligation to try romance. All it does is mean that he gives up on the expectation that it will net him sex. He's still absolutely required to try to meet your need for romance.
For your part, you may have to tone down your ideas of what constitutes a romantic activity and accept his attempts with praise. Fwiw, my H sucks at romance too.
