Oh yes, I know Barney has never seen all that I could be sexually. Why? Because I feel judged by him...and found lacking.
I see this. I also see why you would feel this way.
Pole dancing! Yea, I could learn that. But, not when his heel is in my back and I feel pressured to be some sex goddess. I'd love to surprise him..but the MO is complaints at some point about anything I've tried. Kills my mood.
I understand that you feel there is a a lack of appreciation for your efforts. My last post to Barn addresses this in food anology type terms as best I could.
Communication is also a big thing to me...I don't particularly like raw sex type of words...I"m the musician..poetry, music, having our own words for things...I like that.
I understand that to there are certain words that I dont paticularly like either. Maybe the coming together on that is to make sure the words you use are still strong and direct not flowery. Goodnight kiss is Gel and her H code word for BJ. They may not be masculine or dominant enough for Barn. I take Barn saying I want you to suck my d@k may be offensive to you and a turn off. I also take that you saying I want to give you a goodnight kiss is not provoking enough to be a turn on to Barn. But I am sure there is a middle ground in there.
Hey, tell me how and give me suggestions!
Would be great if he would do this at the time and do it in a gentle engaging way instead of in a insulting you don't know how to please me way. Sensative subjects and the way we approach them cause so many issues and hurt not intended.
I didn't talk about how it made me all wet...that's just not me! Maybe I could email him that..but it wouldn't be true
So you are not comfortable stating something like this. I understand that BF suggested I call my H a big stud muffin once well maybe twice. And it is just not me how I talk to him or even think about him. I giggle at just the thought of saying that to him. Now maybe in a joking mannor I could do this. But straight up nahh.
But your wordage makes me wonder a second thing. But it would'nt be true. It would not be true as in fact. You would be lying to him to say it made you wet or it would not be true to your nature to say such a thing?
But I loved it and thought it was terrific...is that so bad?
No its wonderful you found satisfaction in it. It is a shame a lot of us lack the ability to take such satisfaction in the simple aspects of our lifes.
