I don't think it is principled feminism that has gone too far. But, insofar as feminism has altered the old patterns of relationships, while we still find our way to seeing what new patterns should be, I can grant that it has upset the status quo and that some individuals can take advantage of misusing a so-called feminist position, that really is not.
So, for instance, to go back to the slavery example. After slavery ended, I expect that some ex-slaves used the exploitation model themselves to try to achieve success. This is not honoring the values in virtue of which we deem slavery wrong. But, its possibility arises by honoring those values, for that is what caused us to end slavery in the first place. (Please set aside complaints that it was simple political expediency.) So, honoring those values empowers some exslaves to exploit others because power has shifted. That doesn't make that exploitation right. And, it doesn't make the underlying values that upset the status quo wrong.
Women can just as easily ABuse the old dependent wife role as the new feminist wife role to control and manipulate men. This is not decisive as to whether the true ideals at stake are good ones or not.
If you prefer, consider current politics in which the right ideals are appealed to, but not properly honored, to advance harmful agendas. I'm sure you can find examples no matter which party you support.
