Here's the thing, male strutting aside (I apologize to you if I came across that way). I personally think that everyone here can benefit in some way from what everyone else here is saying. I disagreed somewhat with thing you were saying and thing MrsNOP was saying, but I was learning a lot just by following the argument. I don't think it is ever useful to burn a bridge in haste. True, there are some people who have such negative voices that it would be better just to tune them out, but I don't get that from MrsNOP. You saw her nitpicking, everyone else (I think) saw her trying to deconstruct your argument in an attempt to get you to think about your position a little bit more.
I think the problem is that her tone is very direct (as is NOPkins', I guess that is the "mirroring" that BF talks about). When I first got here, she took that very direct tone with me, and in my immaturity I responded very emotionally as you did (not saying you are immature, just a similar response). Instead of taking what she gave me, a sincere attempt to help me as I now realize, I acted childish, and now she doesn't respond to me anymore. Now I am in a position to hear what she has to say, but I blew it earlier. I did the same thing with Corri (although I'm still not sure what I said there), so now two voices that could have had a lot to teach me are missing. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not crying in my pillow over this, sh!t happens and we move on. There are still plenty of other people here who give me great advice. But as you can see, I need all the help I can get to keep me moving forward, so the loss of any advice is a loss I feel. I don't want you to make that same mistake, although I fear you may already have.
Don't get me wrong Cobra, I like you man. Not in a Brokeback Mountain kinda way (LOL, sorry just a little levity), but I appreciate your intellect, you have said many things I needed to hear. I just think you need to watch what you say a little bit more, not because it is diminishing your feelings, but because (as was already said) it is so easy to misinterpret what others are saying to you in this impersonal forum, and while we are ALL hyped up a bit by our situations.
Peace
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
