I will apologize to you for my comment. I have not taken the time to think about your situation and all the work you put into your relationship. So my remark was in sensitive and I am sorry. That said, I stand by my comment that what you and others are preaching does not work.
One thing I did learn yesterday was to see under the veil of the NOPs. This is only my impression and I do not expect the NOPs to ever come clean on it, but I see what happen in their relationship as a strong willed, stubborn, career driven, self centered man who did not like the taste of his own work. When he turned to his wife to change their path, he realized the extent of her anger and resentment and had to do a lot of work to win her back.
He has the “large” voice and she has the “small” voice. This change is course would be no different that the wives of ZBube, HD or Balto suddenly waking up and deciding to make things right with their spouse. Once that happens, what is so difficult? Is it no wonder everyone else here is spinning their wheels? This “magical” model everyone is trying to implement is simply not applicable.
NOPkins,
As for you, I understand your need to flaunt your machismo in front of your woman. This is the first time you’ve made juvenile remarks like that. I suppose she responds to your strutting and it helps to make your bond stronger. But understand one thing old man, if you think you could ever give me a bloody nose you’ve got another thing coming. You better hit the gym really hard because I’d lay you out so fast you wouldn’t know what hit you. Go back to your porch swing.
