But when women use their upset feelings to trigger a fix from the man, it is a form of control and it is wrong. If a man does the same, then he is wrong too

No its not 'wrong'. Even the Ebook 'Women Men Adore' tells women to use there emotionality to effect change in the R. It effects you deeply and the guilt irritates you. Once again thats your feeling.

Its existed for millinia, and it will always exist as long as we are homo sapiens and not Vulcans. Even you --Mr. Spock, --cant control your emotions when you feel something is unjust, misunderstood, or unfair, as you have clearly demonstrated today. Women are what they are. It is what it is. Deal with it. Fighting it is going to be flailing against the ocean untill you drown.

Cobra I see a deep resentment/fear in you of outspoken different opinionated women. IMO that causes you to have an incorrect? well lets just say suprisingly overboard response.
When Mrs. Nop and Lil used to get irritable with each other, well they are just two opinionated ladies. I expect that from them. I expected and eagerly anticipate more of conflict, with OM, like the first one you and I had with each other. I also knew I would get tested by the women here from the very get go. It continues still. (some just cant help themselves. ) But your response to Mrs Nop even IF she was attacking censoring deminishing blah blah you---- damn dude. Im over here with my mouth hanging open in suprise.

FWIW, my x never used sex --not once --as a tool. When we had blowouts neither of us wanted to boink. I certainly wasnt going to reward her when she was being a --IMO ridiculous B. (cause Im always right... no chance I was a genuine P&!ck at times...heheh) We ML alot, right up to the day she told OM 'I love you'.