Cobra, There have been very few times when I cut off my mate and, even then, we're talking about passing on one night!
My H is quite aware that he is the one with the sexual leverage in this marriage. To his credit, he does not use that against me and never has. Sex is not a weapon I have in my arsenal, so to speak.
I have only turned him down for sex a handful of times so it wouldn't even occur to him that I would do so, even if I were mad. He will even wake me from a dead sleep (or try to!) to ML.
"cutting off" is just not a concept that applies to an HDW. It is as foreign to me as it is to you.
