But Cobra, you dismissed my point of view as well and I was agreeing with you about the book.
I see a 'throwing the baby out with the bathwater' attitude in you. You are so incensed with having given away your power to your mother and then your wife that ALL females are suspect to you. Even when one is agreeing with you, you don't see it and continue to attack.
This seems incongrous with your natural temperament and, therefore, has a bit of a poser quality to it..a Cemar-ish view of the world where you come out swinging and don't even pay attention to what you're swinging at.
As far as me setting a boundary about sex and MrH changing his behavior lest he lose out on sex, that WAS a joke right? Sarcasm? Satire?
I can tell you that MrH changed because he is a people pleaser and he intensely dislikes anyone being upset with him. The fact that he may be morally obligated to try to meet my needs, or that he is a man who needs my feminine charms was NOT on his list of reasons why he did it. They are merely fringe benefits of his decision to do things that would lessen my unhappiness--please me, iow.
Edited to add: I am not saying that MrH's changes are less, in my eyes, because of his intentions. I really don't care what his intentions were; we are happier as a couple, regardless. I just found it laugh-out-loud amusing that you'd think that one of his motivators was fear of being cut off.
