Cobra, Fwiw, I agree that Dr. Laura's advice works. Although my husband has more complex needs than food, sex and praise, I was stubborn and didn't meet those additional needs for a long time. Still...he was happy. When I reached down deep and began meeting his additional needs (long before he deemed it necessary to meet mine, thankyouverymuch) he became realllly happy. So, yeah, it's an oversimplification but it's one that also happens to be true. Many women don't want it to be true, because it is not very attractive in our eyes, being the complex beings that we are, but whatcha gonna do.
Like I said, I don't think my H would have felt fulfilled in such a setup..eventually he would have acted on the longing for more, but he was quite content with this only.
On another note, I found this to be interesting:
Quote: In spite of all your gender neutral positions on public issues, you still feel like one to me.
Let me ask you this: What is your definition of a feminist then? If it's not someone who has the same political agenda as most feminists, then what is it? A woman who does not back down from a man? Who gets inhisface? What is that quality you are referring to that pegs one as a feminist?
I find it interesting that we women who do what Dr. Laura suggests but also find fault with your tone and style of posting are called feminists! If the criteria is that broad then the good doctor (lol) herself would be a feminist. She works, she's abrasive, etc.
Is there more to being a good wife, in your opinion, than merely following DL's advice? Does one also have to adopt a subservient placating attitude?
