I don’t know where you get this impression, possibly from these strung out debates over nothing. My position is nothing like this at all. I am saying both men and women’s opinions, reactions and needs for affirmation are valid. But when women use their upset feelings to trigger a fix from the man, it is a form of control and it is wrong. If a man does the same, then he is wrong too.
I see your point in this, and I think it typically not very effective problem-solving to use upset feelings as the impetus for manipulation. For any gender. I see Dr. Laura saying... "hey girls, if you really want the secret to getting what you want from your H, sex him, feed him and admire him."
Oversimplified. Doesn't work. In my opinion.
Quote: But women don’t seem to worry about men’s feelings so much. They tend to worry whether the man is happy with her, wanting her. This is an indirect concern for the man’s feelings, only as much as it relates to the women.
This I have a problem with. This is a projection from your own relationship that you are spewing onto women in general. Your wife may very well be like this; there may be plenty of women who behave like this; but I know equal numbers of men who do the same.
I think you're taking a personality type and applying it to a gender.
Quite honestly, I think you've got a problem with manipulation, disrespect and dishonesty. These are not gender specific traits.
But this is completely different than how your whole post started out to begin with... you blame feminism as the number one predicator of the often volital male/female dynamic. Dr. Laura's claim. I see that as an oversimplification of a problem that is far more complex than that... I think Paul did an excellent job of citing examples of how the male/female problems existed WAY before feminism came into being...
The rest of the stuff you've said, I'm going to let go... you've got yourself so far backed into a corner, and your foot shoved so far down your throat, I'd hate to press what I consider to be an amazingly unfair advantage. 'Cuz then you'd feel the need to fix it, and I wouldn't want that.
