I do take issue with your characterization of men as being relationship fixers in greater number than women.
I think things have drifted from my original contention. I do not think men are the relationship fixers. As you say, women generally take this on. Men try to fix their wives feelings. Whether that fixes the relationship or not is another matter.
She is a traditionalist in that she wants me to take the lead in many issues. She will never initiate sex, but that's not all. She will often ask why something hasn't been done, that she did not ask to be done. I am expected to be primary breadwinner, loving father, Cassanova-like suitor and mindreader!
Mindreader… do you mean you have to try and guess her feelings to so that she is not upset? Does she become cold toward you because you are too dense to understand how she feels, or that you should be doing something that is plainly obvious to her? Do you feel like you are always one step behind her in trying to figure this out, that as soon as you think you do, the rules suddenly change? And you don’t think this is some form of implicit control, to keep you off balance? And if so, whose hand could it possibly be playing to? Sure not yours. That leaves only one other person…
