I answered this repeatedly. When did I ever say it is all the woman’s fault for men feeling like they must rescue and fix the woman’s feelings? I said that I agree with Schlessinger, that this has been influenced by the feminist movement. Both men and women buy into this practice. Men are enabling it yet complaining about it.
Why is it that my comments are not getting through?
Look. When you first posted this thread, I was one of the first respondees saying, Yeah I agree with her premise, good one Cobra! You did not respond to this...female validation, what you CLAIM you are after..and instead kept on posting as if I was arguing with you.
Sorry HP. Thanks for agreeing with me. I guess I was too busy dodging the other arrows coming at me.
As far as the diminishing feelings discussion, I see it like this. I as a person can *attempt* to take something away from MrHP..his joy, his anger, whatever.
How does one “attempt” to take away the sex? Either it is made available by the woman or it is not.
Take some responsibility for your contribution and I'll bet that your anger lets up, C.
Is this not exactly what I am doing? Did I not tell Chrome that he and men should not feel like they are held hostage to rescuing the woman’s feelings, than we are as responsible for perpetuating this?
I'm not saying that your wife, or any wife or any PERSON for that matter, isn't being a butthead for trying to tell another person what they feel but the ultimate schmuck is the one who allows their feelings to be determined by another.
HP, I though you were doing so good in understanding what men get so frustrated about. And it is not about men getting their feelings hurt because women are upset. Men do want to fix, but if they can’t I don’t think the men fall apart. The problem is that if they don’t fix, the women will get angry and throw their gifts out onto the front yard. Or cut off sex for week. So is the man a schmuck for feeling bad that his wife cut him off?
