Quote: Can you give me some examples of women diminishing men's feelings?
I don't know how to read this, but it comes across to me as offensive. I can't tell if you're trying to take credit for my thought processes or if you're telling me that I've been unclear in what I posted. __________________________________________________________ Thank you, you’ve answered your own question for me. Men generally do not jump to get confront each other so quickly if they feel they have been offended. The general model for boys is to let things slide, blow it off, don’t get into a confrontation unless necessary. Girls are taught to express their feelings as soon as they are hurt. Your response was perfect!
So, how does my telling you how I read your statement and asking you to clarify if I had misread it equal "diminishing your feelings"?
And I must take issue with your assertion "men generally do not jump to confront each other so quickly if they feel they have been offended".
How high a percentage of fist fights, brawls, duels, gunfights, feuds and verbal confrontations occur from men getting offended by other men? Or do you think that such actions are a result of warm, happy friendships?
I don't disagree that our culture has tended to rear boys to butch up while accepting more emotional responses from girls, but how does that equate to women diminishing men's feelings?
Women who try to baby their boys are sometimes corrected for "coddling" them. When little boys are told to butch up, it's usually daddy telling them to do so, not mom. Moms are often pushing to keep Jr. OUT of sports (where coaches aren't given toward allowing boys to express any emotion beyond some whoop-ass on their opponents) while dad is usually advocating for his son's participation.
So, where does that leave your belief?
And again I ask, "how do women diminish men's feelings"?
I assume (correct me if I'm wrong) that you are extrapolating your wife's interactions with you as some sort of normative for the rest of the female gender. For every ball-busting woman I've seen acting as if her husband hasn't a clue about handling a baby, I've seen reciprocal interactions from men who don't want much to do with the baby until the baby is big enough to do something with.
I'm sorry that you've had the misfortune of having the two most important women in your life having little to no regard for you as a person. But no matter how much you want to squash the rest of the female gender into that nasty little package, there are a great many of us out here that just don't fit it.
Your assertions remind me of women who think that all men are raping, abusive arseholes, just because their daddy or husband were.
