Some of the ones the stood out to me in regards to your sitch:
* Belief that, unless everything is "just right'' for another person, then that person can never fully be happy in life.
* Drive to feel "needed'' or "wanted'' which leads you to become overly involved and overresponsible in your relationships with persons, places, and things.
* Result of a pattern of getting approval and recognition from others for "helping'' in the past with the belief that this is the only way you can have meaning in life.
* Become guilt ridden if people, places, or things which you are trying "to fix'' don't get "fixed'' and instead get worse.
* Might tie your identity into the "fixer'' role and never be able to enjoy a truly healthy give and receive relationship with anyone.
Interesting to me is that the site asserts that fixing is a form of controlling. Don't know that I agree.
