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Women basically complain about everything!




NG,
My suggestion to you is to change the "women" above into "I". Take personal responsibility for what you do. I know that you basically do, but changing that one word changes the whole thing, kwim?

I am a woman but I am not a complainer. (massive eye roll from my audience, lol) That is, I complain (vent) here about my H but I do not gripe about all the little annoyances of life. I just let it roll off my back. That's my particular temperament. Along with that temperament, though, are many many faults. Being TOO lackadaisical about things might be one.
If I were to talk of my faults in terms of gender it would dilute the effect of admitting a fault, kwim?

Just some thoughts for you.

BF,
Thank you for the compliments. Ahem, I think.
I laughed out loud at the description of MrGranite. That is so true. I am not a princess and he aint no prince. We're just regular people trying to get thru raising our little kids and keeping the spark alive.
One thing though: I would have never touched those flowers again--he would have retrieved them before I did. As it stands my D6 retrieved them because she thought I threw them out because the baby knocked the vase over. (which she did) LOL
For all of you wondering whether I felt like an ass by showing my daughters how to pitch a fit, the answer is YES.


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Honey...I was not thinking about you when I made the statement "Women basically complain about everything"!

Had I been thinking about you or remembered you I would have stated it much differently...."MOST Women basically complain about everything."

I think it would be wisdom for me to keep any further comments to myself now.......

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Nicegirl,

I disagree that keeping your comments to yourself is wise for you. If the women here don't like your point of view, so what? I've generated plenty of heat here. And I'll continue to put forth my ideas. The stronger the feedback, the better for everyone, including you.


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Nicegal,
No no no, you misunderstood me. I was not suggesting that was aimed at me, I knew what you were getting at.

I'm saying that by phrasing it as "Women complain" instead of "I complain", your personal responsibility is diminished. The urge you feel to overcome this tendency is lessened because "all" women do it, see what I mean? If you said "I" every time you wanted to say "women" you would find yourself getting closer to the problem, I think.
I included my own experience, as a noncomplainer, only to illustrate my point above.

What I am basically saying is that your chances of overcoming the bad habit of complaining are MUCH improved if you say "I am a complainer" vs. "Women are complainers". That's all I was trying to say. And you'd better not keep your comments to yourself; you've been gone long enough as it is!

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Yes, HP, but you then lose the broader point of "most women complain."

It would be best for Nicgal to say "I, like most women, tend to complain too much."

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For some reason this convo about women being excessive complainers is really cracking me up. Thanks.


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Dear Chromo...I just wonder why this is cracking you up...truth usually makes us laugh...especially when it is demonstrated.

Dear Chocolate H...You said it well...it was my point that most women do complain (not all )...we were talking generalities...I have no problems fessing up.......yes, I have been a complainer...most, not all, women have that tendency.

Sorry gals, I agree with the guys on this...most women do complain..and they don't even know they are doing it. ME INCLUDED!!!! Except for HOney...she doesn't complain.

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"Dear Chromo...I just wonder why this is cracking you up...truth usually makes us laugh...especially when it is demonstrated."

I think I just got this mental picture of a woman complaining about somebody saying that women complain too much. LOL

"Except for HOney...she doesn't complain."

Oh no. Never. Not once. Not at all. Nada. Nichts.


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Finally, SOMEONE is recognizing me for my eternally sunshiny personality.

Complain? NEVER!!!!


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Honey:

Start another thread, will you, so I can write to you... I've been catching up on your sitch, and I have a few ideas for you... your probably won't like them... but they could be points of discussion during your ME weekend...

Corri

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