Cobra... why are you still reading books intended with a female audience? and why are you still trying to logical females? and what steps are You taking to modify Your behavior?
As for feminism... the more feminist the woman the more masculine often neanderthal her lover/boyfriend. enough said.
Quote: since they are trying to do what is best for the relationship. They have been trained that expressing their feeling in an open, honest way, and not holding things in is the way to emotional liberation. And for women it is. But it can be imprisonment for men.
So, there is my theory. What does everyone think about that?
Not only is it imprisonment, it is highly unattractive to women. So stop doing it. Do what she needs, not wants. And take care of you. Which might mean making her upset, unhappy for a moment, <gasp> even angry. TESTS I say. You wont get treated as the king of your castle while you are on (figurative) bended knees, kissing feet, scrubbing floors. NOT gonna happen.
You also wont get attraction if you FORCE her to be something that she is not. She does have to receive feelings and emotion to feel complete and secure. Trying to force this, or talk her into becoming a man is just going to swing it to you being abusive to her needs.
Also. there are princesses cruising about this BB. HP is NOT one of them. She is more then a handfull and requires a H with the imperturbability of granite, also called strength, but she got one. He keeps her busy (shot putting romantic gifts of flowers, and then running to fetch them .. UM EXCUSE ME-- PRINCESS. Who cares what day they came on??? ) from what I can see.....
We are wrong when we want our H to make us or keep us happy...and women do it all the time. Strength is to be happy in yourself! Then whatever you H does is a gift!!! And not your entitlement. I could make a list of all the romantic things I wish my H would do for me...I could be a movie writer! But his character is far more lasting than the romance...and so he isn't...too bad..but rather than dwell on that and make my continual requests!!!...focus on the good, accept what cannot be changed and be thankful when something good happens. It makes for a happier atmostphere. absolutely. thank you Walt disney for sleeping beauty/cinderella/et al and fostering womens romantic entitlement notions to fairytale heights. Thank you hall mark for requiring how when and where, and most importantly, if it is better then the neighbors, I choose to show my appreciation and romantic side. NG Do you have any single friends who have reached this epiphany? LOL.
however many many men create the entitlement monsters they live with. By allowing the abusive behavior of the women to wheedle/threaten/cajole him into ignoring his own needs. Whose fault is that? BOTH. Its always both. But men are the head. So more his. Stop allowing her to do it. Stop yourself, control yourself and your environment. That is Sexy- to women.
HP The source of my disappointment is his own promises that he makes and then does not keep.
show him Matt 5:37. and then tell him it hurts you very very deeply when he gives you a promise and doesnt follow thru with it. or not. And then to spend 60 dollars on six roses the day after VD is just asinine. What a waste of money on a too late gesture. if there was no VD how would you have felt about them? its only a too late geture if you have a deadline in mind. One made by the hallmark people perhaps? However I do acknowledge your need is valid for being rejuvanated. very much so. I will try to honestly assess whether I'm encouraging him to spin those plates. of course you do. you cant help it. you have toned it down and consistantly work on it. so please dont stop, I wont get any laughs from you then...
Choco, its good to see you posting more you seem to be getting closer and closer to your own A-HA, and HD (come back), I hope you took her cake away and ate it yourself (with a big glass of milk )
Ive missed keeping up with eveyone. off to post somemore...
Oh yeah. Hi Lfl.
I dont think Dr.Schlessingers book would be a waste of time for you to read. It would be good for you to check out. <Though I more then occasionally agree with her, and Rush, I really cant stand either of their hypocritical, always right personaes....> <cough> felonious drug addict <cough> multiple divorcee/porno chick<cough>
sledding accidents as a child. ahh memories. "scars are souvenirs you never lose" hope D6 is well.
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