Quote: And this is where feminism comes in. If the man is raise to minimize his feelings and feels responsibly for keeping his wife happy, or at least trying to fix her unhappiness, then he takes on an additional load. And even if he knows that he is not responsible for the feelings of others, he cannot help but be brought down by a wife complaining that her feelings are hurt. He instinctively wants to make her feel better, even if he knows he can’t. This inability diminishes his feeling of control over his world. Yet he is a man and men control their domain, they are the king of their castle, or at least other men are, just not him.
What do I think? I think this is EXACTLY how I feel. After 18 years of thinking about my unhappiness (and I'm a pretty introspective guy, too), I think you've hit how I feel square on the head.
That is just me, however (why do I suddenly feel the need for that disclaimer?)
After 18 years of thinking about my unhappiness (and I'm a pretty introspective guy, too), I think you've hit how I feel square on the head. 
