The only question I have with Dr. Laura's book is this: She claims that if a wife will feed, sex, respect a husband he will suddenly want to move mountains and "Go slay the dragons" for his wife. She will see an immediate improvement in her man as she works to pay more attention to him.
But in my case, I am not getting the food, the sex, the respect, yet I still move mountains and slay the dragons, simply because I love my wife. I do not agree with everything my wife does and the way I am treated, but I still love the woman and work my butt off for her. If my wife suddenly started doing what Dr. Laura suggests, would I be happy? Heck Yeah! I'd love that! But what would I then start doing for her that I am not already doing now? I can't think of anything. I am already doing everything I can...
So does that mean I should start doing less for my wife so she will be encouraged to take up Dr. Laura's philosphy and pay more attention to me? I don't know... If I did start doing less, I'd have to take a self esteem blow as I would feel like a terrible husband. It is in my nature to want to serve those that I love. But at the same time, what is the incentive to my wife to change her ways? Nothing. Why suddenly start doing all of that stuff, when you are already treated like a princess? That's suddenly a whole lot more effort on her part, with no rewards. Maybe that is why she she so quickly blew off the book as BS when I wanted her to read it...
