Oh you silly man. I don't have to turn my "argument" on myself. I'm not hung up on the Men/Women Mars/Venus view of the world. The point I'm making to you is if you're not inherently interesting to the other person, then your needs aren't going to make you interesting to them. Hence the whole problem with the "meet my needs" approach to relationships. Man, woman, child, or Martian.... "meet my needs" isn't that interesting or appealing.