Very insightful post Cobra. The equilibrium of the R/M NEEDS to be disrupted in order to see REAL change. In my case, separation. It doesn't mean things are magically fixed now that we are back together, but the status quo is no longer acceptable. We see the M thru new eyes. We have weathered a terrible storm and can now see some light. It's not where I'd like it to be but I wouldn't take any of it back if I could. I no longer live in FEAR of the M not working out. I think many people do that very easily. They say they are not happy and yet fear prevents them from REALLY doing anything about it other than talking smack and letting the resentment build. It's sad. It's also not effective. I'm glad you are making some progress in your M Cobra. Good to hear.
